"Remodeling" of Self

By Stephen C. Schultz

I find it interesting that when someone is remodeling their home, visitors are very tolerant of improvements that are obviously underway.

Yet, when someone is remodeling their character, others seem to feel an obligation to call attention to the messy signs of remodeling, or remember aloud things as they were!

How we respond to others imperfections says more about our development than theirs.

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