Skip to main content

Life Transitions...Lemons or Lemonade?

By Stephen C. Schultz

The sun was high in the sky, with a slight breeze keeping the temperature at a comfortable 87 degrees. It was a pleasant day in the West Desert of Northern Utah. Getting to this point, however, required a two-hour drive.

The veins in his neck bulged, and the grimace on his face matched the guttural growl that escaped his lips. A long screech filled the air as the lug nut finally moved a fraction of an inch. Yes, it had happened—a flat tire in the middle of nowhere!



Daniel Hazen was the one tasked with bringing me to a team of kids in a wilderness treatment program. Daniel, the Program Director at Outback Therapeutic Expeditions, is an exceptional person. Well-rounded and easygoing, it’s clear how much he loves helping families and their struggling teens. I was on my way to meet a young lady who was scheduled to attend Discovery Ranch South. She was eager to learn more about where her transition would take her.

I visited Jamie (not her real name) at Outback and answered her questions. She had come prepared with a leather-bound notebook she had made herself, complete with a list of written questions. It was clear she had invested significant time and effort into preparing for her transition to Discovery Ranch. She was proud of her notebook and even prouder of the progress she had made at Outback. She had a sparkle in her eyes as she spoke about the hikes she had completed, the cooking skills she had mastered, and the experiences she cherished with other students and staff. There was a sense of openness, calm, and maturity about her—not qualities often found in teenagers today.

I explained that Discovery Ranch was for students on an upward trajectory who were thriving in their current treatment programs. When I said this, she beamed.

We discussed school, activities, and where she would sleep. When I asked what she was most nervous about, she admitted she was worried about being bored academically. I reassured her that Discovery Ranch focuses on achieving balance between therapy and academics, emphasizing that both are important. We talked about how, in traditional school settings, time is constant and learning is variable. At Discovery Ranch, however, learning is the constant, and time is the variable. I assured her that we would meet her at her current academic level, tailoring the educational experience to her skills rather than her age or school year.

She seemed excited about the transition, her demeanor bright and animated. I handed her a brochure that featured advice from other students who had transitioned from wilderness programs, sharing their insights and what they had learned. I also explained that, in the spirit of honesty, not all students immediately thrive at Discovery Ranch. Some experience setbacks. However, I emphasized that our goal is to meet students where they are and support them in taking full advantage of the opportunities available to them.

She smiled.



Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Recommended Books for Parents, Families, and Personal Growth

 By Stephen C. Schultz Parenting has never come with an instruction manual. As children grow, families encounter new challenges involving communication, relationships, anxiety, technology, independence, emotional regulation, and simply figuring out how to help a child navigate an increasingly complicated world. Over the years, I have spoken with many parents who were looking for more than a quick answer to a difficult parenting problem. Sometimes they wanted to better understand their child's behavior. Other times they wanted to improve communication, establish healthier boundaries, or simply find a different way of looking at a situation. One of the resources I have found particularly helpful is a good book. The right book cannot solve a family's problems, but it can provide a new perspective, introduce a useful skill, or reassure a parent that they are not alone. With that in mind, I have compiled the following list of books that parents, families, and others may find helpful...

Personal Fulfillment – a byproduct of kindness, caring and service

By Stphen C. Schultz As I watch the news and listen to discussions on the daily topics of interest, I find myself disheartened by the selfish, shallow and selective reasoning that seems to be so pervasive throughout our great country. Selfishness creates an attitude of self-pity, which over rides any attempt at empathy for others, compassion or thoughts of service. Chronic self-concern means that the emotional "No Vacancy" sign will always be sputtering. I find myself asking; what ever happened to civility brought about by kindness, tact and tolerance? Where is the courage to be caring, honest, faithful and friendly with one another? If we as a people hope for unity, we must embrace patience, peacefulness, respect, idealism, courtesy and honor. My next thought was that these principles seem to be foreign to whole generations. Many seem to be caught up in a “scarcity” mentality where there are only winners and losers with no opportunity for a “win-win” situation to b...

Treat People Like They’re Under Construction

By Stephen C. Schultz Five Ways to Support Others as They Grow I find it interesting that when someone is remodeling their home, visitors are very tolerant of improvements that are obviously underway. They understand that dust, mess, and exposed beams are part of the process. You might even hear comments like, “It’s going to be beautiful when it’s done!” or “I love seeing the progress!” Yet when someone is remodeling their character , we often don’t extend the same grace. Instead of supporting the process, we sometimes call attention to the “mess” in progress or worse, we remind them of what their “house” used to look like, as if they’re not allowed to change the floorplan. But here’s the truth: our lives are all Design/Build projects. We learn as we go. We draft blueprints based on what we think will work, and then we tweak them in real time. There’s no perfect plan from the start, only vision, intention, and a whole lot of revision. So how do we show up for others in the middle o...