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A great list of self help books

 By Stephen C. Schultz

The international pandemic has created a need for a thorough list of self help books!

Over the last few months, most people recognize that the COVID-19 Pandemic has seriously disrupted life as we knew it. From sheltering in place to academic shut downs to economic down turn and is obvious there has been an emotional toll on everyone.

Over 53% of adults in the United States report that their mental health and substance use has become worse since the start of the pandemic due to stress, anxiety and simply worrying about COVID-19. Many also report having problems with sleeping, eating and increased use of alcohol. This information and more can be found at this link that contains data concerning the impact on mental health.

In my position at Discovery Academy, I have been speaking with parents who are struggling with the associated issues of working from home or no work at all...and, their kids out of school trying to be educated online. This is certainly a failure path in the making.

So, I have assembled a list of books and resources for families. There are certainly many more out there, but these are some of the best that parents we work with seem to appreciate. I do hope you find this recommended reading list helpful...enjoy!

Recommended Reading List

  1. I Don’t Have To Make Everything All Better-Joy and Gary Lundberg

Shedding the no-win role of "fixer" and empowering people to solve their own problems through validation. Improve relationships with your partner, children, colleagues and friends.

  1. Attention Deficit Disorder: A Different Perception- Thom Hartmann

New theories about ADD which include the latest research along with surprising information on studies that link second-hand smoke to disruptive behavior, among other things.

  1. Principle Centered Leadership-Steven R Covey

A long-term, inside-out approach to developing people and organizations. How to increase quality and productivity, and have a new appreciation of the importance of building personal and professional relationships in order to enjoy a more balanced, more rewarding, more effective life.

  1. Leadership And Self Deception-The Arbinger Institute

Through a story everyone can relate to about a man facing challenges on the job and in his family, the authors expose the fascinating ways that we can blind ourselves to our true motivations and unwittingly sabotage the effectiveness of our own efforts to achieve success and increase happiness.

  1. The DBT Workbook For Overcoming Depression-Thomas Marra

The step-by-step exercises, techniques, and worksheets in this book work to identify painful inner conflicts that might underlie depression and anxiety symptoms. It gives you a powerful set of tools for the control of co-occurring depression and anxiety.

  1. Don’t Let Emotions Run Your Life (DBT)-Scott E. Spradlin

This workbook teaches you to reduce the impact of painful feelings and increase the effects of positive ones so that you can tolerate life's ongoing stresses and achieve a sense of calm coexistence with your emotions.

  1. How To Really Love Your Child-Ross Campbell

Dr. D. Ross Campbell reveals the emotional needs of a child and provides parents with the skills and techniques that can begin to help make your child feel truly loved and accepted. You'll learn to really love your child through every situation of child rearing from physical touch to discipline and from affirmation to spiritual nurture.

  1. When I Say No I Feel Guilty- Manuel J. Smith

New techniques for getting your own way and asserting yourself without feeling guilty.

  1. Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway-Susan Jeffers

Filled with concrete techniques to turn passivity into assertiveness. Dr. Susan Jeffers, teaches you how to stop negative thinking patterns and re-educate your mind to think more positively. 

  1. Codependent No More-Melody Beattie

A simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency, charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.

  1. The Ultimate Gift-Jim Stovall

Fiction: What would you do to inherit a million dollars? Would you be willing to change your life? This book answers those questions in a tale of hard work and self realization. 

  1. Stop Walking On Eggshell (Borderline Personality)-Paul Mason

Helps you to understand borderline personality disorder (BPD), set boundaries, and help loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.

  1. I Hate You, Please Don’t Leave Me-Kreisman And Straus

Offers professional advice, helping victims and their families to understand and cope with BPD.

  1. The Price Of Privilege-Madeline Levine 

Identifies toxic cultural influences and well-intentioned, but misguided, parenting practices that are detrimental to a child's healthy self-development. 

  1. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew-Sheerie Eldredge

Reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love; an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child and within the adoptive home.

  1. Beyond Consequences, Logic And Control-Forbes And Post

Details the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses.

  1. The Knight In Rusty Armor-Robert Fisher

Fiction: While searching for a way to remove the armor that has become stuck on him, a knight finally discovers the true qualities of knighthood.

  1. Parenting With Love And Logic-Cline And Faye

This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. Learn how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character. 

  1. Parenting Teens With Love And Logic: Preparing Teen For Responsible Adulthood-

Cline And Faye

Empowers parents with the skills necessary to set limits, teach important skills, and encourage decision-making with their teenagers.

  1. Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child-Gottman

A guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world

  1. The Lost Art Of Listening-Nichols

Examples, easy-to-learn techniques, and practical exercises for becoming a better listener, and making yourself heard and understood, even in difficult situations.

  1. When Bad Things Happen To Good People-Kushner

Contemplation of the doubts and fears that arise when tragedy strikes that offers clear thinking and consolation in times of sorrow. 

  1. Why Marriages Succeed Or Fail And How You Can Make Yours Last-Gottman

Guides you to determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage.

  1. Out Of The Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction-Carne

Identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency helping both sex addicts and codependents realize that they are not alone and not destined to eternally be at the mercy of the disease. 

  1. The Blessing Of A Skinned Knee-Wendy Mogel

Jewish principles to raising self–reliant, compassionate and ethical children.

  1. Silent Sons-Robert Ackerman 

By putting aside anger, finding peace with one's self, and looking for support from other silent sons, Dr. Ackerman feels every man can realize his full potential and become a well balanced, healthy survivor.

  1. Perfect Daughters-Robert Ackerman

Daughters of alcoholics often assume responsibility for the failures of others. Ackerman explores, and helps conquer, these issues.

  1. Anatomy Of Peace: Resolving The Heart of Conflict - The Arbinger Institute

How to get past the preconceived ideas and self-justifying reactions that keep us from seeing the world clearly and dealing with it effectively. 

  1. Letting Go Of Shame-John Bradshaw

Identifies shame and provides recovery skills to work through it. This book helps to explain the emotion of shame and its impact on our self-image and relationships. 


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