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International Boarding School...It's all about relationships!

By Stephen C. Schultz


When teenagers start to struggle, the first thing to suffer is their relationships with parents, teachers, church leaders, and other responsible adults in their lives. They often push away the very people who care about them the most.

During this time, teens may gravitate toward "friends" who they believe truly "understand" them. They frequently seek comfort, attention, entertainment, and excitement from peers who validate their attitudes and behaviors, even when those behaviors are unhealthy. This can lead to "groupthink" and a false sense of emotional security, especially when they spend time exclusively with like-minded individuals.


Regardless of country or culture, healthy relationships are essential for fulfillment and a strong sense of self-worth. At Oxbow Academy, we specialize in helping students and families rebuild these critical relationships, particularly when problematic sexual behavior (PSB) has disrupted trust and stability. Our therapeutic approach focuses on accountability, emotional regulation, and fostering positive, supportive connections.

For international students, the need for a structured, understanding environment like Oxbow Academy is even more critical. Being far from home can intensify feelings of isolation, cultural disconnection, and emotional distress, especially when coping with PSB. Oxbow Academy provides a safe, inclusive space where students from diverse backgrounds can receive specialized support tailored to their unique cultural and personal experiences. Our dedicated team helps international students navigate not only the challenges of PSB but also the complexities of adjusting to a new environment, building healthy relationships, and developing a strong sense of identity and belonging.

Explore the site to learn more about how Oxbow Academy helps teens and families, both locally and internationally, navigate challenges and restore healthy relationships.



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nate said…
Awesome! I loved the video :D Definitely looks like a great part of the program. It seems to me that self esteem, participation, fun etc. are all elements of this program - And elements we all need to be healthy. Thanks for sharing!
April 23, 2013 at 12:56 PM
Stephen C. Schultz said…
Thanks nate! I appreciate your feedback and kind words! You're right, there are many aspects to creating a healthy relationship whether it be with family, friends or teachers!
April 23, 2013 at 1:56 PM
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