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Lessons lived are lessons learned!

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By Stephen C. Schultz



Every once in a while, I like to go through and read some of my older posts. I've been posting some of my thoughts, experiences and parenting insights since 2008! Wow...where does the time go?

Throughout the years, I have seen my kids grow up, attend college, get married and become independently responsible adults. There have been trials, frustrations, joys and accomplishments.



I have tried to write these experiences in a way that makes them timeless. The term among writers is "Evergreen Content". The term evergreen certainly fits my articles. However, the term writer couldn't be further from the truth for me. I'm just a guy that writes stuff from time from to time hoping that someone else can be inspired by or learn something from one of my experiences.



With that said, here are a few of my favorite posts! I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I had writing them.

The Positive Influence of Books 

The Roller Coaster of Life

Personal Fulfillmen…

Who “Owns” the client?

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By Stephen C. Schultz

(Editors Note: This is the written version of remarks and training I did as part of a workshop that included our residential, clinical and academic leadership. I work with a group of therapeutic residential programs. I thought it would be nice to share some of these thoughts with those who happen to view my blog. I hope this is helpful in some way.)

There is a trend in business where the latest language around customer satisfaction and word of mouth referrals is the term “Advocacy”. This is where a customer actually advocates for the organization they are doing business with.
I have chosen a career that specializes in teen residential treatment. Our clients include the student, their family, their therapists, their school educators and counselors and often many others just to name a few. The majority of our clients demonstrate this principle of “Advocacy” in one way or another.


We see this principle in different forms at all of our treatment programs. It comes in th…

RedCliff Recovery - Individualized Treatment for Young Adult Women

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By Stephen C. Schultz

Her steps were slow and steady. The red rocks below her feet and the azure blue sky overhead created a remarkably beautiful scene. She had a sense of peacefulness and a calm demeanor she had never felt before. This was an adventure she previously would not have appreciated were it not for her family recommending she get some help.


It's hard to believe it has only been three weeks. Usually she didn't like the wide open spaces. She craved the flurry of crowded parties, the nightlife of clubs and the excitement that social media afforded her. She was like a cat chasing its tail, always searching for the next thrilling experience, but never finding it. She found herself in more and more compromising positions and taking unnecessary risks. The feelings of embarrassment had long ago subsided and she numbly accepted each new day.
Her family was concerned. There were regular fights and hurt feelings. They painfully witnessed the twinkle in her eyes fade and a sad …

When Corporate Culture Impacts Families!

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By Stephen C. Schultz

The sun glanced off the window and reflected at a strange angle to the floor and up the wall. As I looked outside, it was obvious that spring had arrived. There were bright green leaves having recently unfolded on the shrubs outside. Tulips and Hyacinths stretched upward, bending occasionally in the cool canyon breeze.


The boxed lunch from a local deli that included a ham sandwich on rye bread with potato chips, a cookie and a pickle stared back at me. There was the regular lunch time discussion with the laughter that rises up and then fades just as quickly. The room consisted of a large mahogany conference table with twelve plush captain’s chairs. The chairs were full of colleagues, all of us eating lunch after a morning training session.
We were the sales and marketing team from two private psychiatric hospitals. We had gathered at this particular location because Melody was in town training us on the latest skills associated with Professional Sales Skills (P…

Discovery Academy Reunites Families

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Guest Blog
By Barbara Davis Senior Admissions Coordinator

Are you struggling with your son or daughter? Does it feel as though you are more and more disconnected from them, their friends and the life they are currently living? Are you concerned about their academics, friends, social media use and appreciation for all you have done as a parent?Many will say that this is simply the stages of adolescents. However, you kinda know it’s more than that.


I would like to reiterate that everything we do is to assist you in navigating this process. I would encourage you to fill out the confidential online application located on the website. This application process is specifically designed to help you organize your thoughts, identify key high risk areas and facilitate a productive and efficient conversation. Whether you enroll with us or choose another route, having your history and information organized along with the Youth Outcome Questionnaire (YOQ) results, will be beneficial to your success.
As…

RedCliff Ascent offers long term positive results to teens and families

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By Stephen C. Schultz

Research Link – A Comparison Group Study (Time limited link) Highlights This comparison group study looked at the impact of Outdoor Behavioral Healthcare longitudinally on youth participants as reported by their parents.Findings showed that youth participant’s one-year post participation in OBH treatments were functioning significantly better than youth who remained in their communities.Regression analysis showed the only significant predictor of change was participation in the treatment group.

Dr. Steven DeMille
~Outdoor Behavioral Healthcare Model program offers long term positive results to teens and families~
In 2007, Dr. Steven DeMille found himself working as a field guide in the back country of extreme Southwestern Utah. He was in charge of the activities of daily living for a group of nine students who were enrolled at RedCliff Ascent. Steve, as well as two or three other staff members who were responsible for the student’s safety, tau…

Parenting Insight in the Era of Phones and Technology

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By Stephen C. Schultz

The tears were running down her cheeks and dropping to the floor like small raindrops. There wasn’t the sudden heavy sobbing that accompanies truly despondent news, but there was some silent shallow breathing and the recognizable blurry vision that comes from the eyes slowly welling up with tears.
I stepped around the counter in the kitchen and asked my 16 year old daughter what was wrong. She was obviously in some distress. Like most teens, she simply stated;
“Nothing”
So, I pursued it a little more;
“Come on hon…what’s the matter? Obviously, something is bothering you.”
She responded;
“Nothing…really. It’s stupid.”
She eventually opened up and confided in me. It was some pretty normal teenage drama that most parents have seen and experienced many times throughout their lives, but to the teens it is new. I asked a few questions that included the old journalist mantra of “Who?, What?, Where?, When? and Why?”


During her explanation of the situation, she continued…

Battling the storms of teenage Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB)

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By Stephen C. Schultz

The “Nor'easter” was blowing in with reports of up to a foot of snow expected! The whining hum of the compact rental car was screaming at high RPMs just to stay ahead of the storm. The roads were wet and snowflakes hit the windshield in random patterns as the wind gust hit us broadside.

Springtime in the Northeast United States can be tricky with flowers and trees in bloom only to be hit with cold winds and a snowstorm.





Todd Spaulding, LCSW, CSAT and Clinical Director at Oxbow Academy was sitting next to me in the car. We were headed to western Massachusetts to visit with the clinical staff and students at John Dewey Academy. We had just wrapped up a visit to Chamberlain International School that morning.

The purpose of our trip to the Northeast was to visit the previously mentioned schools and provide staff training and workshops to two other schools about dealing with Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB) from students in a residential and academic setting. La…

Parenting from the child's point of view

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By Stephen C. Schultz
Transactional Analysis- Ego StatesUnderstanding this model will be a valuable piece of information for you as you work with colleagues, parent your children, communicate with your husband or wife and interact with others in your community. These principles will assist you in gaining insight into your own style of behavior and communication. Remember that awareness is the first key to opening the doors of maturation, refinement and growth.
In the 1960s a psychological theory became available known as Transactional Analysis. The chief proponent of this new theory was Eric Berne, M.D., an Austrian psychiatrist. Transactional Analysis developed significantly beyond Berne's early theories through the work of others and has continued in its development and practice even to today. Berne recognized that the human personality is made up of three ego states. Each ego state is an entire system of thoughts, feelings and behaviors from which we interact with one another. …

"I Have To Run!" - The Adult Version

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By Stephen C. Schultz


The air was clear with a slight coolness starting to close in for the season. The light blue Astro Van clunked over the curbing and up into the driveway.



With a subtle click and the swoosh of the car seat protective pad shooting up over her head in a single motion, Amanda was out of the seat and opening the door. The van had not even come to a complete stop and she stumbled forward a step before regaining her balance.

She leaped from the van to the driveway, landing on both feet at the same time. She had her hands on her hips, looked from side to side and declared to the world in a loud booming voice that can only be mustered by a four year old;

"I have to run!"

She then took off in a flash and started her mission of running around the outside of the house. It wasn't a single trip with a detour to the kitchen for the latest treat. No, this was a "Five Times Around The House" effort...non-stop! Oh...to have that childhood energy again!



I st…

Parenting Perspective and Associated Wisdom

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By Stephen C. Schultz


The air was cool and heavy. The smell of stagnant water and the sounds of creatures that inhabit it echoed through the night in an orchestra of unfamiliar and hauntingly eerie sounds. My phone buzzed and I instinctively looked at the number. I stood and excused myself from the others around the table and stepped closer to the water’s edge, acutely aware that I may become a late night snack for an aggressive alligator whose zip code is Tampa Florida.

The number was my wife’s. I answered with a simple “Hello”. I felt there must be something wrong. It is unusual for me to get many calls from my wife when I am away on business. Especially when there is a time zone difference and there is a good chance I will be involved in meetings or business dinners. She is fiercely independent, smarter than me and capable beyond measure. So, when she does call, I am confident it’s not going to be small talk.

She mentioned that my daughter Emma was at volleyball practice and start…

A Mothers Wish

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Guest Blog By Suzy Moon

(Editor’s Note: This is an experience that was recently shared with me. I received an email from a colleague of mine. It is heartfelt and raw. It flows from the soul of a mother who is trying, like the rest of us, to make sense of this earthly existence. I share this with permission from my friend and colleague. She only hopes that by sharing this experience, it can help to lighten the burden of another who reads it.)
“I have a son who is 24 years old.  He is funny, talented and kind.  He also has autism.  He is a great kid. Earlier this week, I dropped him off at a residential home for high functioning autistic adults. During the orientation, Josh cried for 35 minutes. I don’t remember the last time I saw Josh cry.  I think it has been over 20 years. He’s not emotional like I am.  It broke my heart.


I saw some parallels to the parents who bring their kids to our programs.  I know that the time Josh spends at Scenic View can be a positive change in his life that c…