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The Rocky Landscape of Teen Sexuality

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By Stephen C. Schultz


(Editors note: This is a very sensitive subject and may be uncomfortable to read. Viewer discretion is advised. The application and information in this post is essentially focused on schools and therapeutic programs that have a residential component.)

The chairs were all in a half circle. There must have been over fifty, all filled with students. Banners from various colleges and universities hung from the rafters. The dull roar of multiple conversations all going on at the same time was cutting through the air and echoing off the walls. I stood in front of the crowd and waited. The conversations and dull roar slowly faded like a train disappearing into the distance.
All eyes were now on me. I asked one question;
“Who can tell me what grooming is?”




I have spent my career working with families and teens through some very difficult times. I am a partner in a specialty care facility called Oxbow Academy. Oxbow specializes in treating teenage boys from across the globe w…

“Out of the Mouth of Babes…”

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By Stephen C. Schultz
In my line of work, I am made aware everyday of the struggles that teens endure and the pain families suffer. Often it seems we are fighting a losing battle.

There is no doubt, everyone has their own personal struggles and burdens to bare, my family included. However, some people seem to manage the struggles with grace, decorum and a sense of perspective that is inspiring to others. Four out of the five posts below are written by my daughter. Over the last few years, from time to time, she has written a piece and then asks me if she can post it on my blog. I am happy and proud to do so! Please enjoy some of her written work.
My House Has StarsPerfectly Wicked - A Fractured Fairy TaleI can make a difference by helping others!My Experience with AutismWhy should "Bullies" get all of the attention?



Hope, Passion & Perseverance - Healthy Communities

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By Stephen C. Schultz
I went home today for lunch. There wasn't anything there that a discerning palate would embrace, so I threw the chicken and rice cheddar medley in the microwave and patiently waited for a minute-thirty to pass.
I sat down to eat.  My energetic...always on the move…love’s the water...thirteen year old daughter proudly walked in the kitchen and pulled some fresh baked cinnamon rolls out of the oven. She turned, smiled at me and said,
“I just made some cinnamon rolls! You want one?”
I responded with, “Sure, I would love one,  hon!”

She then started telling me that she was “sooooooo excited” for school to start. She must have mentioned three times that it starts in 3 days. She went down the hallway and retrieved a little folding shelf and brought it out to the kitchen counter. She said,
“I had this last year. But, since we have a new school, I don’t know if it will fit in my locker. You see, even though my locker is deeper this year, I don’t think it is as wide.…

Discovery Academy Fosters Healthy Recovery

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By Stephen C. Schultz

The clouds were white and fluffy, billowing up higher and higher. I could feel humidity in the air and there was the faint sound of thunder rumbling in the distance.
I was walking with Christin Prestwich, LAMFT. She is the Director of Admissions at Discovery Academy. The conversation was about the students at DA who desire to live a life of sobriety. There was the usual talk of use and abuse and individualized treatment plans. But, the one thing that stood out to me was the garden.


The garden is a great metaphor for life. The students have to work together to prepare the soil. It takes persistence and determination to stay on task and work with the end in mind. They then sow the seeds taking care they are planted at the right depth with appropriate spacing between plants. The plants need nourishment and water on a regular basis. There must be patience, because plants don’t grow overnight.
All of these same principles apply when working through the issues of recover…